Spooky Linkity!

Okay… not entirely spooky. But I’m scheduling this for just before Halloween, so I’ll be including holiday-appropriate links where I can. This is a long one today, so grab a cup of coffee or tea before diving in!

Have you ever heard of knights battling snails? (I hadn’t either, but thanks to a link from Cameron @ Here Be Wyverns now I have. And now you have too.)

You can rent a pirate ship on Air B&B. (If you decide to do this, take lots of pictures and share them with me!)

KM Kat shared a link with some great “healthy eating on the cheap” tips. This is not really an appropriate Halloween link since there’s no mention of candy. But I still want to know why the alternative to ramen is bees.

Michelle Louring has a tutorial on Danish swear words and insults that I think my readers would benefit from knowing. (Even though I can’t even start to guess how to pronounce “ø”.) Also, she has an owl and does awesome cosplay (sometimes WITH THE OWL). Seriously, go check it out.

Leelynn has a great post about racebending. It’s a very important read, especially if it’s not something you’ve thought about before.

This article from WIRED starts with a specific angle on #MeToo in the video game community, but then broadens out to get much more general about male fragility. Say what you will about the subject, but I have had personal experience with a large chunk of it. There’s one specific part that calls out why my ex-husband is not only my ex, but why he was my husband in the first place. I don’t think we would have stayed together long enough to get married if he hadn’t pulled this control tactic.

The threat that men will fall apart or harm themselves if women refuse to put up with their behavior is an age-old, tried-and-true tactic of control, and it plays on issues of identity that run hot and deep. Women are raised to put men’s interests before their own. Women are supposed to protect men from the consequences of their actions. Even if it means staying in an abusive relationship, or accepting social ostracism and shame, women are expected to suffer so that men can grow. Most women and queer people have been raised to treat men’s emotions with respect and deference, even at the cost of their own happiness, because most of us have been raised with the understanding that when men get upset, bad things happen.

I normally like to keep things light and happy on the blog, but when I read this article I knew I had to share it. If sharing this attitude and pointing out its flaws can help one person avoid what I went through, it will be worth it.

A couple months ago Chris posted a link to an article with advice that might save your life. Some of it is stuff that likely won’t ever apply (it starts with a warning to not eat a polar bear’s liver) but it’s also got a lot of great stuff that’s good to have in the back of your mind in case of emergency.

Chris also posted a link to a post showing why Bohemian Rhapsody might be the most successful MEME ever. And IT IS AWESOME. It includes quotes like this: “… our human delight at clutching up good memes like magpies and flapping back to our flock to yell about them to everyone we know is why we as a species bothered to start doing things like ‘telling stories’ and ‘writing stuff down.'”

KMKat shared a link to a really powerful message about learned helplessness and the positivity of making things. This really, REALLY hit home for me. It’s worth a read (and a re-read periodically, too).

Hunter Hammersen, one of my favorite knitwear designers, blogged about tariffs and how they impact her as a designer of knitting patterns.

Find out how far George Washington could throw a microwave. Or how far you could throw George Washington.


Have a wonderful Halloween (if you celebrate) and happy autumn! (Or spring. Though if you are in the Southern Hemisphere please tell me how well spring and Halloween go together. I’m having a hard time picturing it.)

9 thoughts on “Spooky Linkity!

  1. Thanks for sharing all of these! Especially the WIRED article. I haven’t read it yet (I will but today is all about blog hopping) but the part you quoted really rings true for me too. My first real BF threatened to kill himself when we broke up, and that was super rough, but more obvious. I was with a guy for 5 years and we were actually engaged before we broke up (he cheated on me, it was finally a “good enough” reason to put a pin in it) but everyone always told me how good I was for him and how much better of a person he was with me and how his drinking was so much less because of me. Basically I had this subconscious thought that if I broke up with him that he would spiral out of control and ruin his life (that I had helped him build) and that it would be my fault if he failed. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was putting him first, and I am so much happier now that I am on my own again. Its super tough and I don’t think enough people talk about it.

    1. OMG YES. There was never “you two are so good for each other.” It was always “you’re so good for him.” And it took big signs (like him cheating) for me to stop and wonder why I didn’t deserve someone who was just as good for me as I was for him.

      Thanks for sharing! You’re so right that not enough people talk about it.

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